We all just looking at each other crazy
Right now that Big K.R.I.T. song, “ They got us all fucked up,” is playing in my head.
I mean WHAT a day.
You ever been in a situation where a friend is telling you a situation they were in and you want to understand and be supportive, but you really don’t agree with the logic they used to react in the way they did, but because its your buddy you kind of smile and nod or kindly say well I understand both sides or something like that, but in the end here you both are just kind of looking at each other crazy because each of you can’t understand why the other can’t understand the other and maybe because you feel your right, there’s really no need to keep trying, you just know its time to move on. Well in hindsight, that was what my whole day was like, I didn’t understand people, that I thought I had and understanding with.
Let me start a little backwards and just plan out my tomorrow. So I’m going to wake up late, and I’m not going to leave this house. I’ll get up around 10, maybe even 11 a.m. make few phone calls then FOCUS on creating my own watermark/ little signature thingie, that I feel the need to put on the bottom of all my pictures just so my work that’s out there is attached to a name. I notice it on the photos of almost everyone who considers themselves a photographer on facebook, but a couple days ago when I discovered this blog
therealkesh.blogspot.com, I noticed her little signature at the bottom right of all the photos she takes. I notice most bloggers photographers or not, don’t have it. Anyway between that and Project Runway, I really don’t plan on doing shit on this day off, I just need another moment.
Now back to the beginning. After a bit of washing, a little facebook stalking, and downloading a couple songs I got ready for work. We all know I hate my job, and if you aren’t aware I work for a large chain, big box, discount retailer. I won’t say the name of course. So I get to work and as usual, my hard shell formed around me by the time I hit the sales floor, these people, as in my co-workers were already pissing me off and I had been on the clock all of 5 minutes. The hard shell, just for clarity is my attitude change. I’ll be the first to admit I’m not nessesarily he nicest person, and can be mean, but I’m good-hearted and goofy, when I’m in my natural habitat, ain’t a damn thing natural about this job, this is how a shell formed around my, my attitude there is very rude, and patience very short.
In the restroom right after I decided I wasn't doing anymore work for the night.
So today was going like most other awful days there, and today I was looking forward to my work buddy coming in so at least I’d have someone to be goofy with and not feel like I’m doing all the work, but today, my work buddy became just one of the people I work with. Basically, I called her to come help me do something, we needed to do to make the rest of the night go smoother and faster for us, and she completely ignored me, I tried to justify it like maybe she didn’t here me, maybe she’s on break, maybe… well there is no maybe because we’re work buddies, not just people who work in the same department. Her ignoring gesture set the tone for the rest of the night bullshit because of course, I worked my ass off with no help, while she worked her smaller side with help from the store manager, further giving me an attitude because now I really can’t understand why you can’t come to the side we ALL have to do before it gets bad, which it got really bad and at that point I’m realizing that I’m getting NO help probably because these mutherfuckers are used to me being the only hard worker and take for granted that I take care of business with out much direction or assisting. Well I thought at a certain point I’m just going to stop and see what they do then, I’d already been working as if I was 3 people that day and after the customers left I was going to slow down to not just being one person, but be one average worker, like the buddy who ignored me. I just needed to see how far they would try to push me without so much as an acknowledgement to how much I’ve already done. Well, they pushed me even further, this time right off the edge, but it took me complaining to my friend about this fucked up day to realized that I’d been pushed over the edge a long time ago, and didn’t even fucking realized it.
I have become average. A slave to that mutherfucking paycheck, and some semblance of security in knowing its coming every week. I was pushed over the edge exactly a year and a month ago, I had just about finished building the website all on my own, when I endured a series of events at that job that didn’t lead to me just quiting, and going even harder on what I was already working hard on at the time, which was my online magazine. From being overused, my money being stolen out my locker by a co-worker, to being told by my manager that I got a promotion, then being told during my review, not to long after my money was stolen, that my attitude changed because I wasn’t promoted. Mind you the manager telling me this is the same one who told me to apply for the promotion, because I was getting it.
All of this negative stuff happened at this job in the short time frame between July and August and I didn’t react like a natural go-getter would and QUIT! All because I wanted to keep my credit good and pay off my two credit cards first and more importantly I was saving up to pay for a couple trademarks and fees for forming my LLC. Good reasons, but that should never have kept me in fear of letting the bullshit go and seeing the quiting as my golden opportunity to spend more time on my company. Instead I just hit the bottom when they pushed me over that proverbial edge. I stayed there long enough to allow myself a hard time with the climbing back up. Just like exercise when you stop for a while it becomes hard all over again to get back in the habit of doing. I was used to climbing, I’ve been climbing my way to the top for a long time and I somehow let this bullshit job, with it’s lazy bullshit people knock me off stride so much so that I have get back used to doing what I been doing, climbing.
Not taking it personal, just saying…Now on to the next story of the night, which is just me telling you about some shit I learned a long time ago, that I had to remind myself of a couple hours ago. So I’m damn near running skipping down stares to catch my train tonight after I left this bullshit job and just as the train comes to a stop I notice my old college pal on the platform. We acknowledge each other with a hug and all that smiling “heeey, funny seeing you here?” stuff and I’m thinking aww, this should make for an interesting spin on my usual train ride, definitely keep my mind off the bullshit job.
Graffiti on the train ride home with old college friend that pretty much summed up the night.
Well the main thing I’m going to remember about this conversation was when he said
“How you plan on having a (successful) magazine, if you don’t watch tv?” Black girl, furrowed eybrows attitude begins here. What! Hold on Hold On hold on, let me explain. Apparently because I said I don’t watch much television, he assumed, I somehow don’t stay abreast of current events. Before I said anything about the internet duh! Or why would he say such a dumb thing to me I asked for other examples of how he came to this conclusion about me not being abreast of current events his examples goes back to the beginning of our small talk. He was coming from a free screening of some movie call The Town with Ben Affleck and other mutherfuckers I could care less about. Anyway when he said the name of the movie and dropped Ben Affleck’s name like we all went to college together and I failed to say “Ohh yea I saw the commercial on tv, how cool, I want to see that, was it good?” he kind of mentally gave me a strike 1, then I don’t know what we were talking about when he likened whatever it was to a fifty Tyson of 50 Tyson or #fiddyTyson and I had no idea what he was talking about he gave me a strike 2. So when we got to him exclaiming “ how you gone start a magazine, and you don’t watch tv” I’d already striked out. Before I hit him with the leftover attitude I as calmly as possible asked him why I needed tv, to have a successful magazine, he said I’m not aware of current events. This is when my attitude spilled out a little. So all because I don’t know about the movie you just saw and some dumb ass trending topic on Twitter (which I’m not on but didn’t tell him so he would have further ammunition for his stupidity), I’m not going to be able to get a successful magazine off the ground?! For starters you have no idea what the magazine is about for two are you not aware that before there was tv, there was newspaper and magazine! And last and most importantly are you serious, with a movie and a trending topic being “current events” REALLY? I mean I could see if I was like Oh I’ didn’t know Obama just mentioned something about the war being over and troops coming home, or Oh I had no idea Daley is about to retire or Ohh the oil not spilling anymore. Those and the almost countless amounts of misguided Black kids killing each other along with what songs Kanye is leaking off his upcoming album are trending fucking topics to me smart ass!
Wheew, now that that’s off my chest, the lesson I learned from my encounter with him, is that I already know and accepted the kind of person he is. I’ve known him from the beginning of college to be just who he is and we were friends once, And I knew then not to get in depth with him on certain things because we would just be looking at each other crazy. I learned then that sometimes you don’t understand people, you think you have an understanding with, and that doesn’t have to make you any less understanding toward them.
The day was September 15, 2010 Wednesday3:05a.m.
Could've used a little bit of this, before work today.
Along with starting the magazine, I'm "going natural" which seems to be very popular right now, of course this is not the reason why I'm doing it though. I think what's turning this into a trend is the blogs, vlogs and websites about the process. But because I want to track my own growth I'm going to start a new page on here dedicated to my hair, that way you wont have to see posts about it, but if you're curious you can always just click the hair link that's up there next to Portfolio and Home buttons. 10:17a.m.
12:40a.m.
In the restroom right after I decided I wasn't doing anymore work for the night.
Graffiti on the train ride home with old college friend that pretty much summed up the night.
Could've used a little bit of this, before work today.
